You’ve probably already heard that May is mental health month. But technically every human has mental health so every day is mental health day. But I digress…
Mental health is just as important as physical health. I’m an advocate for mental health specifically bipolar disorder. This is not always easy. People always ask me how I’m so open. Well, I’ve had this disorder for years and just recently started talking about it. It’s not for everyone but for me it’s therapeutic. I like to help people like me.
I think one of the biggest things I’ve learned is that in general, most humans aren’t good at describing how they are feeling. Most will say generals like sad, angry, bad, happy. But all of those things are very general and they don’t help anyone around you know how to better help and understand what’s going on with you.
Let’s use angry as an example. I often tell Ben I’m feeling angry. But that’s not helpful for him. What if instead, I described it as feeling let down, humiliated, bitter, aggressive, frustrated, distant, or critical. All of these things help him know exactly where this anger is coming from. You can go even further with this. Descriptors like betrayed, resentful, disrespected, ridiculed, indignant, violated, furious, jealous, provoked, hostile, annoyed, withdrawn, numb, skeptical, or dismissive.
I think it’s really important that we try to be more descriptive with our feelings. Not only that but to know that all of those things I just listed are things that everyone feels. You aren’t a freak for feeling things. That’s normal. Now, having bipolar throws all of those feelings into an extreme area but I still handle them through therapy, meds, talking with my friends and family. Feeling things is normal. Everyone has mental health. Everyone feels things. We all just feel them at different levels and that’s ok too.